Perception vs. Reality

THE PROSPEROUS CONSULTANT

Turn your decades of expertise into a premium consulting practice built around the life you want.

Issue #39

I woke up in Budapest expecting New York with older buildings.

Horns, sirens, and busy professionals racing on the sidewalk to get to their next appointment. But this city surprised me. It was actually calm, almost stoic. Clean enough to make many American cities look like a dumpster. And quiet... almost no horns or sirens the whole time we were there, which says something when you come from a country that uses the horn and the freedom finger to communicate important information.

Here's what a quiet city has to do with the business you're building.

In this issue:

• The picture in your head that's been making (wrong) decisions for you, and where it came from
• What a Brazilian couple and I, at the Acropolis of Athens, learned about perception vs. reality
• The cheapest ticket you'll ever buy to find out what's actually true

You have a few “cities” like my Budapest in your head. You've just never called them that.

There's the market where nobody pays premium fees anymore, especially not to somebody with gray hair.

There's the sales call where asking for real money feels like begging.

There's the age where starting something new stops looking brave and starts looking foolish.

You've toured every one of them, usually around 2 a.m. You know the streets, the sounds, exactly how the rejection will feel. You could lead the tour.

And that forecast has been making real decisions for you. The call you didn't make. The fee you discounted before anybody even pushed back. The practice you want to build, still sketched on a napkin somewhere.

One question, and be honest with me on this...

How many of those “cities” have you actually visited?

And I don't mean cities on a map. I mean the ones from your 2 a.m. wake up and worry tour.

The Budapest I braced for was one of mine. That loud, hurried place never existed. I'd built it from borrowed footage... movies, headlines, other people's stories from decades ago. Not one frame came from the actual city in Hungary, and I'd have sworn the picture was accurate.

Maybe yours got built the same way too. Somebody you knew tried it once and got burned. A feed full of people half your age shouting about funnels. One bad meeting that's been rerunning in your head ever since. That's the whole archive your mental picture was drawn from.

Last week I shared some wisdom from a brain surgeon, out of the book that I’ve been reading on this trip: "Perception immobilizes, but perspective empowers." Then Europe proved him right.

A perception is a forecast, not a fact. And a forecast built from somebody else's footage shouldn't get a vote on what your next ten years will look like.

And Athens handed me even more proof.

Today at the Acropolis, I watched somebody else's fabricated picture of reality die in about four seconds.

A couple near us was speaking Portuguese, trying to sort out a group photo. Let’s just say that the way they were talking made it obvious they didn’t think anyone could understand what they were saying.

I lived in Brazil for four years a long time back, so I stepped over and offered, in Portuguese, to take the picture for them.

They looked at me like the Greek gods of Shock and Surprise had spoken.

English wasn't their strong suit, and the stats they'd been running all day were reasonable: nobody here will understand us.

Wrong.

Standing next to them at the Acropolis was a guy from Indiana who speaks Portuguese.

They were as grateful as they were shocked. One sentence of contact with reality, and a perception they'd had all day went poof.

What does this mean for you, exactly?

You gotta speak their language.

Somewhere out there is a business owner who is certain nobody understands their business.

They've read the consultant websites, stuffed with frameworks and acronyms, and decided help isn't built for people like them.

Then a consultant with thirty years of scars asks one question, in their words, about the crew, the margins, the handoff that keeps breaking between sales and ops... and gets the same look I got on that hill.

And you wouldn't be an interruption. You'd be the photo they were hoping a stranger would offer to take.

So here's what I'd do with a mental forecast that's never been tested.

Don't argue with it, and don't wait for it to fade on its own. It won't. A perception doesn't correct from the recliner... it corrects on contact.

Buy the cheapest ticket you can find. Not a move-to-Budapest ticket...

An analog (get in the car) or digital (Zoom if you must) conversation with somebody who looks like the client you'd love to serve. One ask you've been drafting in your head for a month. Your real price, delivered once, to one actual prospect, without talking yourself down first.

Then compare what actually happened to what you predicted. Maybe the real city has some noise in it. Fine. You can work with real streets. You can't do a thing with imagined ones.

If "not yet" had won again, the way it's won every year since 1989, the last time I was in Europe, Tabbi and I never board that plane. I'd still be home trusting my imaginary Budapest. Certain the real one was a noisy mess I didn’t want to visit. Certain the trip could wait. Wrong on both counts, and I'd have never found out.

Instead I got quiet mornings in a city that embarrassed my forecast. I got Tabbi seeing Europe for the first time in her life. And I got four seconds on a hill in Athens where a stranger's day got easier because the picture in their head was wrong too. Almost nothing matched the forecast. Almost everything beat it.

P.S. I’m writing this from Athens, the same day as that photo at the Acropolis. A week ago the suitcases were by the door and the noise was handing me every reason to stay home. Now I’ve spent that week walking around inside the proof that the noise is a terrible travel agent. If this one stirred something up, hit reply and tell me about your invented city. Tabbi and I will raise a cup of Greek coffee to every note that comes in.

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